Friday, 11 September 2015

7 THINGS ABOUT SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

            Are you a student, parent or teacher? Or are you a leader somewhere? Or you are just that nobody who wants to be somebody? Here are 7 tips that will help you on your journey to success, they are things you need not know about successful people


1.       Process not Proceeds: Everyone who wants to be successful must have a dream. However, it is not everybody who cares how their dreams are achieved, all they want is to see their dream come true. Great people are not always like that. They don’t want to achieve their dreams through the wrong means. There is no good turning yourself into a thief all in the name of being rich.
               “Means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek”- Martin Luther King Jr.
2.    Think more, Talk less: Great people don’t talk away their time; instead they think. Wonder why people applaud them when they speak? ‘Cause think before they do so. Before you contribute in a discussion, listen to what people are saying and think before you contribute so that when you do, they’ll respect you.
                       “Men of few words are the best men”- William Shakespeare.
3.    No Discrimination: To be great, you have to be unbiased. Don’t let a person’s history, tribe, skin colour, name, sex, religion, age etc. determine how you relate with them. Remember, on the road to success, every passer-by can be helpful. Successful men are not bias, if they are, they’ll be known only in their villages. Remember the result of Orwell’s
              “All animals are equal
                But some are more equal than others.”

4.    Living the belief:  Most of us don’t live our belief. We carry it with us and express it when we are in an acceptable society but drop it when we find ourselves in a hostile one. This is not supposed to be so. Live your belief, don’t practice it. Be yourself, that’s what successful people do.
               “To believe in something and not to live it, is dishonest.”- Mahatma Gandhi.

5.    Dying for the Dream: The most inspiring thing about great men is that they are ready to die for their dreams. They can go to any length to see it come true.
“I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society…It’s an ideal I hope to live                                                  for…but if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”- Nelson Mandela

6.    Lead by Example:  On of the most amazing things about great leaders is that they don’t sit back at home and order their followers around, instead they do as they want their followers to do. They lead by example.
           “The best way to teach a dummy how to write is to do it.”

7.     Love: Of all the points discussed above, love is the greatest. Love allows you to accommodate and associate with everybody with the same mind. It keeps selfishness at bay.
                “ Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and relationship. The foundation of such method is love.”- Martin Luther King Jr.


        Can you now see why these men are great? If you can work on these tips, you will soon see the you you’ve dreaming of. Remember:

                             I.            The means we use to achieve our goals
                          II.            Thinking more, talking less
                        III.            Unbiased mind,
                        IV.            Living your belief
                          V.            Dying for the dream
                        VI.            Setting examples and the greatest of all,
                     VII.            Love.
                   Thanks for reading. Someone else might need this, so share.

                     






Thursday, 10 September 2015

TEENAGE LIFE 001: A TEENAGE GIRL’S LETTER TO HER MOTHER.


      Dear Mother,
                             I have been looking for a way to tell you these things but I haven’t found a better way than to write you this letter. Please mum, am confused and I don’t want to be misled. I can’t tell dad this ‘cause he'll misunderstand me and start yelling at me.

                          To start with, the Cleric. Mum I don’t want you to send me to the cleric for special prayers again, I can be raped. I read a lot about young girls getting raped in churches and mosques. Bisi, my friend was raped last week at Pastor Kamilu’s place. Same thing happened to Aisha while learning the Arabic language at Mallam Shehu’s place. Honestly, am scared know if I tell dad, he’ll just snap at me and tell me am secular. Mum please don’t send me to him again. Am still a teenager I can get raped.

                        Also, my boyfriend. I know you don’t want to hear anything about Davis but please don’t tear my letter. I love Davis and he loves me too, why shouldn’t he be my boyfriend? I don’t like the way you and dad see him. Besides, I’ve been trying to convey my fears to you all this while but whenever I mention his name, you shut my mouth. Mum, Davis has been touching sensitive parts of my body these days and I don’t know how to tell him to stop. Last week we kissed-don’t know if that’s bad- and now he’s asking for sex. Mum, what do I tell him? I love Davis and he loves me too but am still a teenager, I can get pregnant.

                    Similarly, my teacher. Mum, Mr. Bosun has been pestering me all this why to pay him a visit in his house. I don’t know why. I know if I tell you this, you might think am making it up. Mum, I can’t hold it back any longer. Yesterday, he threatened to mark me down in my final exams if I don’t visit him. Mum, why does he want me to visit him? I don’t trust him. There is something fishy about his request. But still, I don’t know. Maybe I should just go and see what he has to say ‘cause am still a teenager, I don’t want to fail.

                      Furthermore, my friends. Mum, some changes are occurring in my body lately. Two days ago, I was having menstrual pain. Mum it was painful so I told my friends about it. They said it’s because am still a virgin and once am deflowered, the pain will cease. Mum is it true? I thought this virginity of a thing is what you keep for your future husband. Please, am still a teenager, I don’t want to be misled.

                         Mother, thank you for reading my letter to this point. I didn’t expect it. But please don’t tell dad about this and reply me secretly and quickly. I love you mum.
                                                                                          Your daughter.


THE ANT AND THE ANTELOPE.

     Long ago before the evolution of man, the animals lived together
happily; mammals, birds, fishes and amphibians. The kingdom was such a
peaceful and united one that they celebrated festivals here and there.
One day the Lion announced that very soon there would be a Boxing
Contest in the kingdom and the final winner would be awarded a place
in the king’s palace.
   “So if you are interested, register with the parrot before tomorrow,”
the Lion concluded.
The goat, leopard, antelope, hen, sheep and many other animals
registered for the contest. The ant also registered.
    “What are you doing here?” the parrot chuckled. “You are too tiny for
this.” But nevertheless, the ant put down his name on the big scroll
the parrot was holding.
     
    The contest started a week later. It was scheduled for mornings and
evenings and one by one the animals were being eliminated.
Surprisingly, only the antelope and the ant made it to the finals
which was scheduled for the coming week.
“Both of you should go and prepare yourself for the final match.” The
king advised

     During the days of preparation, the antelope busied himself with
purchasing the best boxing materials that were available in the
kingdom: gloves, armours, mouth guards and the likes. He even borrowed
loans from various animals when he went bankrupt.

    However, the little ant started training himself. He went to every
animal in the kingdom and challenged them all to a contest, one by
one. Though he was defeated by some of them, he learnt new skills and
developed his pincers.

   When the D-day arrived, the antelope appeared with gloves, armours and
materials which he didn’t even know how to use. And then the fight
started. The antelope was a good boxer but all the materials he put on
weighed him down. The armour was too heavy, the gloves weren’t any
better and worse still he had never used them before. Eventually, he
was defeated by the ant who made use of what he had: pincers.

LESSON: Why was the antelope defeated? Because he didn’t get himself
prepared. Preparation is a catalyst to success. No matter the amount
of money you have; no matter the fame; the material possession you
possess; you still have to get yourself prepared for the future.
          Whatever it is that is coming up, if you are prepared then you are
ready. Despite the antelope’s gloves and everything, he wasn’t ready
and so he was defeated. Even though the ant didn’t have much, he still
won the contest because he was prepared. Acquisition of wealth or fame
doesn’t really mean you are preparing for the future, it doesn’t. The
little you have, how are you using them?
         


As The Guide will say: Be prepared