TEENAGE LIFE 002: A MOTHER’S RESPONSE TO HER TEENAGE DAUGHTER’S LETTER

               My daughter,

                                Am sorry about my attitude towards you and the questions you used to raise at family discussions, forgive me. Now to your letter.

               About the cleric. I’ve also heard many stories about rape especially those involving religious leaders and teens. No one can be trusted. However, Pastor Adedibu is a trusted man of God who will never rape you. But since you insist, I’ve told him you won’t be coming to his place again. I hope you are happy about that.    

               Your boyfriend. I should have listened to you all these days, forgive my stupidity. I know Davis is a handsome and good-looking guy but still he shouldn’t be your boyfriend. Not because he isn’t qualified but because it’s not yet time. You shouldn’t have allowed him to touch you or even kiss you but since you have made that mistake, don’t repeat it. Also, don’t give him sex. If he loves you, he should wait until you are old enough. My daughter, please don’t give him sex. To be safe, don’t spend time with him again; no long discussions, no love letters and the likes. Am saying this for you safety. If you don’t give him sex, he might want to rape you so distance yourself from him. Teenage years are not for sex and snogging, there is time for that later.

            Your teacher. I understand your fears. I had an experience like that while I was like you. My daughter you are too beautiful too be deflowered or pregnant now. Your teacher has no right to summon you to his house, he has an office if at all he needs to (and not at odd hours). Nevertheless, I have written a letter to your principal concerning that. Relax, I didn’t reveal your identity.

           My jewel, menstrual pain isn’t caused by virginity. You MUST remain a virgin till your wedding night. Please my jewel, it’s important. Your friends are wrong and they want you to be deflowered because they have been deflowered. They are not good friends my daughter, dump them and get good ones.

         I commend your courage and promise to always pay attention to you anytime you need me to. I love you and I want the best for you. Do all what I have written here and let me know how you feel afterwards I love you.

                                                                                        Mother.

 P.S: I didn’t tell your father.

                                                       


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TEENAGE LIFE 001: A TEENAGE GIRL’S LETTER TO HER MOTHER.

      Dear Mother,

                             I have been looking for a way to tell you these things but I haven’t found a better way than to write you this letter. Please mum, am confused and I don’t want to be misled. I can’t tell dad this ‘cause he'll misunderstand me and start yelling at me.

                          To start with, the Cleric. Mum I don’t want you to send me to the cleric for special prayers again, I can be raped. I read a lot about young girls getting raped in churches and mosques. Bisi, my friend was raped last week at Pastor Kamilu’s place. Same thing happened to Aisha while learning the Arabic language at Mallam Shehu’s place. Honestly, am scared know if I tell dad, he’ll just snap at me and tell me am secular. Mum please don’t send me to him again. Am still a teenager I can get raped.

                        Also, my boyfriend. I know you don’t want to hear anything about Davis but please don’t tear my letter. I love Davis and he loves me too, why shouldn’t he be my boyfriend? I don’t like the way you and dad see him. Besides, I’ve been trying to convey my fears to you all this while but whenever I mention his name, you shut my mouth. Mum, Davis has been touching sensitive parts of my body these days and I don’t know how to tell him to stop. Last week we kissed-don’t know if that’s bad- and now he’s asking for sex. Mum, what do I tell him? I love Davis and he loves me too but am still a teenager, I can get pregnant.

                    Similarly, my teacher. Mum, Mr. Bosun has been pestering me all this why to pay him a visit in his house. I don’t know why. I know if I tell you this, you might think am making it up. Mum, I can’t hold it back any longer. Yesterday, he threatened to mark me down in my final exams if I don’t visit him. Mum, why does he want me to visit him? I don’t trust him. There is something fishy about his request. But still, I don’t know. Maybe I should just go and see what he has to say ‘cause am still a teenager, I don’t want to fail.

                      Furthermore, my friends. Mum, some changes are occurring in my body lately. Two days ago, I was having menstrual pain. Mum it was painful so I told my friends about it. They said it’s because am still a virgin and once am deflowered, the pain will cease. Mum is it true? I thought this virginity of a thing is what you keep for your future husband. Please, am still a teenager, I don’t want to be misled.

                         Mother, thank you for reading my letter to this point. I didn’t expect it. But please don’t tell dad about this and reply me secretly and quickly. I love you mum.

                                                                                          Your daughter.